I Absolutely Adore You!

How often do we say or think this about our spouse? I know that I love my husband. I never doubt that, but do I admire him? Do I think about his great qualities and the things that attract me to him? This week I made a discovery. I don't nourish my admiration and fondness for my husband as much as I should.

When I was dating my husband, he was always on my mind. I loved everything, (ok, MOST everything) about him. I adored him. I couldn't stop talking about him. We all know how this goes. Then marriage happens. It's great. Then the honeymoon stage ends and real life hits, AND...most likely you still admire each other but you don't realize it as much. You don't constantly think of each other. Sometimes, you may not even really want to be around your spouse. Caring for someone and admiring them takes work. I compare it to running. You might be able to run 15 miles but if you stop running for a few months, you most likely wont just pick up where you left off and start running 15 miles again. You have to work to get your strength and condition back to where it was. The same goes with your marriage and relationships. Just as it is easier to continuously run long miles and keep what you have gained than it is to stop running for a period of time and then try to regain what you have lost, so it is with our relationships. If we are continuously thinking of the positive attributes our spouse has and what we enjoy and admire about them, our love and admiration will continue to grow and it will be something that is more natural and familiar to us. If we lose sight of the things we adore about our spouse, then it is going to take more work to focus on the positive qualities they have.

If nourish our admiration and cherish our spouse more, we will have a more fulfilling and loving relationship. I encourage you to make a list of the things you love and admire about your spouse and keep it. Read it when you need it most.